12 Real Life Tips for New Moms
Several of my dear friends are about to become new moms! (You know who you are :)) So in honor of this new chapter, here are some of my best Tips for New Moms!
Becoming a brand new mom is quite the adventure! It’s both thrilling and terrifying all at once. They hand you this teeny little bundle of baby…and it’s yours. To take home. No amount of reading can fully prepare you for this. It’s one of those things that you kind of just have to do, ya know? So I’m no veteran mom by any means, we have a little 17 month girl. But I do feel like there are some things that I wish I would have known, or certain things I’d want my first time friends to know beforehand! Just be warned that this isn’t your typical list of, stock up on diapers. This is real life people, so we figure real life advice is always appreciated 🙂
1. Trust your Instincts
I remember having this plan in my head about where baby was going to sleep, and how everything was going to play out. We quickly bailed on that plan when we realized the only place our baby girl was going to sleep was on our chests. Yes it’s important to know the rules, yes it’s important to know why those rules exist. But I believe that a parent’s instincts should be trusted and every child is different. So feel free to take pride and have freedom to do what’s best for you and your baby.
2. Nursing is hard
It’s new for the mom, it’s new for the baby. It’s totally normal for it to be awkward and to take practice. Take advantage of the hospital’s lactation consultations or of classes before-hand. Don’t stress, you got this! There’s no shame asking for help, it’s crazy how much a little trick here or there will make all those hours nursing so much better. Here’s a Boise Breastfeeding Class and Resource contact.
3. Knowledge [about Childbirth] is Power!
Whether you are planning on having a natural birth or an epidural, I highly recommend taking a birthing class. I was referred to the Confident Childbirth Class in Boise and was blown away by everything we learned. This class is catered to people who are having natural births, but it’s amazing and so empowering.
4. Childbirth is Tough on Mom’s Body
This probably sounds like a no-brainer, but we were so focused and excited on our sweet baby arriving I didn’t really prepare myself mentally for how taxing it would be on my body! Let’s just say I was thankful I brought the Boppy to the hospital not just for nursing but for me to sit on! 🙂 Stock up on : the biggest pads you can buy, loose yoga pants, granny panties, stool softener (do it, just buy it), Tucks, lanolin/nursing cream and world’s largest water bottle. If you can think of other things just leave them in the comments at the bottom of the blog!
5. Just because something is protocol at the hospital doesn’t mean you have to do it
In our birthing class we learned there are quite a few options and ways you can speak up for yourself at the hospital. Things such as delayed cord clamping and skin-to-skin contact after birth were important to us, so we spoke up. I didn’t realize how many decisions that there are alternative views on and they are worth at least looking into!
6. Mom, you have to eat and drink!
I wasn’t aware how directly mom’s nutrition directly affects milk production. Drink water, drink water, drink water. Milk and dairy products help, (I’ve heard cheesecake is gold!). It’s easy to forget to feed yourself because so many other things are going on too. Freezer Meals before hand are a must, as well as dozens of frozen healthy muffins and easy quick snacks as well!
7. You don’t need a lot
It’s so tempting to go crazy during your baby registry and buy a million contraptions. Truly a newborn doesn’t need much. The items I found that were priceless to me were: a boppy, a good carrier (we love our Ergo), diapers, wipes, a car-seat/jogger travel system, and zip up jammies. For the mom, several good nursing bras and a nursing cover.
8. Become the stain master
It’s no joke the types of stains you will battle. I found that Washing Soda was a miracle worker. Rinse the article of clothing, then soak it in warm water with some of the soda scrubbed in. Voila, good as new.
9. Capture all the Little Things
As tired as you may be, you will forever cherish any videos or photos you take of your little one. I know everyone says they grow up so fast but it’s true! We had a birth photographer at our birth and those photos are so near and dear to my heart. The photos of our daughter Isla when she was teeny tiny and her milestone photos are priceless as well. So find a book a photographer early! My husband and I are Boise lifestyle photographers so we would love to chat if you’re looking for someone!
10. The Sisterhood
Whether you’re going to be a stay-at-home or a working mom, having a community of other moms is so needed. I quickly learned that play dates are just as much for the moms as for the little ones and that having a friend bring you a blizzard to get you through a rough day is amazing. If you don’t have any friends that are moms, now is a great chance to make a new friend, I know they need you as much as you need them!
11. Get some Sunshine
One of my friends told me the importance of getting out of the house after having a little one. No it’s not as easy scheduling everything around nap-times and learning how to feed them in public, but if you just get out there and do it, it gets so much better! Yes life does need to slow down, and rest is your new best friend, but definitely try out that new jogger and go for a short walk with a friend! If you baby is screaming in the grocery store, don’t panic, it’s okay! Most everyone will understand and if they don’t then who cares. You are doing a great job. I promise.
12. Soak it all In
Don’t feel guilty if your day consists of snuggling your new baby on the couch then maybe indulging in a shower. Maybe. Showers are luxuries. Just take a deep breath, soaking in that lovely baby smell and kissing the top of their head. The laundry will eventually get done, and somebody will make dinner. If you are super sad, it’s okay, we’ve all been there before. If you want to post a million photos to Facebook, that’s okay we’ve all done that too. Be proud, you are a new mom and once again you are doing great! We are so excited for you.
Here’s our sweet girl Isla- newborn and at 15 months
[If any of you moms out there have any advice you want to add, i’d love to hear it in the comments below!!!]
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